By Anil Arora 2011…

We can take it as a given that we all want to be successful in our lives, whether it’s in business, relationships, health or our careers. We all want to achieve our potential so we can live fuller lives and enjoy life to the maximum. Is this really true? Some people say they are not happy in their job but at the same time they do nothing to change it so they remain in the very job that they are not happy doing. You may give a handful of reasons as to why you feel that you cannot change, I would say yes you can, if you know how.

I am not saying that you can do it over night or in a few days as it takes a mindset shift, which takes practice. In my experience as a therapist and lifecoach, the biggest obstacle is your belief in what you can achieve.

Clients often say they want change but are not sure about what to do or believe it will happen and so they remain in that mindset and live an unhappy life. When I say changing your thinking, I am talking about the thinking that goes on within your mind when you are talking to yourself in your head.  What are you saying to yourself? Are you feeding it positive words or are you saying “I cannot do that, it’s too difficult, I could never achieve that”. It’s paramount that this self-talk is mastered because it is like a virus and will infect your life and then your behavior is reflected by it.   In a sense, let us say your life is a reflection of your self-talking, if you are not getting what you want in life, rethink your self talk.

“How do I do this?” you might be asking.  It’s straightforward, if you accept that this self-talking is happening, you can then use this to your own advantage by slowly embedding positive reinforced self-talk.  Start asking for what you want as opposed to what you do not want. Over a short period of time your self-talk will become more positive and creative and your life will begin to reflect your thinking. Again, this takes practice so be patient. Another tool that is as effective and can be utilised alongside the self-talk is imagery. So just as you become more aware of your inner dialogue, you now start to visualize the things you want and allow them to become imprinted in your mind. Every day set 5 or 10 minutes aside and close your eyes and visualize what you want in your life.  At the same time reaffirm your inner dialogue. Over time this will become second nature and you will wonder why you didn’t do this sooner.

You may think this is too easy, however, you have been doing it all of your life without knowing the impact of it, so why not just take control and direct it to what YOU want.

There are many other things you can do to aid you with getting more out of life but for now this is a good start. If you do want to know more please email me info@transformational-hypnosis.co.uk